Since I have been in the Missional church  class I have begun to realize how self centered I can be, I have referred to the church I attend as “my church” and I have spoken of God in terms of My relationship to him. I have begun to realize that this sort of terminology has twisted my view of what it means to be a Christian. I have built my faith on how I feel about God and what I get out of church rather than going out and working dependently on God and other Christians. It is unnerving to think that most of my journey as a Christian has been dictated by my personal experiences rather than by living incarnationally.
The most important commandments are to first love the Lord with all your heart and love your neighbor as yourself, loving yourself comes later, sometime after women wearing head dresses in church. In short, my experience with church has been highly individualistic and it is extremely unhealthy. The church should be filled with people that love one and other and depend on each other and the people in the church need to spread that love to the surrounding community. Living incarnationally is not easy; it goes against our hard wiring of doing what feels easiest and best to ourselves. It calls us outside of ourselves, out of our bubble and into the open world. 
This shift from individualism may start with a simple shift in thinking which can even start with a change of vocabulary. When four pastors from the Spokane community joined us for class, Rob highlighted that they spoke of the churches they were a part of without calling it “my church” or “my congregation” but they spoke about it as if they were a part of something bigger than me. I hope I can learn from these wise men and begin changing even if it starts with my vocabulary.